Off days are very different from days off. Although, you may be having an ‘off day’ if you NEED a day off and haven’t taken one. Days off are critical for giving yourself a chance to rest, recoup, get the laundry done, buy groceries or see friends. They can be ‘chore days’, ‘fun days’ or a combination of both.
An OFF DAY is different, it is one in which you just feel ‘blah’.
Sometimes it could be because you’re coming down with something. I often have an off day, where I just feel so tired and lethargic, just before I’m getting a cold. I try to have it remind myself to up my vitamin C intake, get more rest, drink tea and, if my throat is even a bit sore, to take some (vile) oil of oregano. Many people don’t believe any of that stuff works, but I know that it does for me.
An ‘off day’ could be a day when nothing seems to go right. There’s the mechanical off day—something is wrong with the car, you miss the bus, your bike gets a flat, and you spill your coffee on your way to work—any of those things. If you have a spouse or children, the off day can be as a reaction to their off day, some ill temper, some scheduling problem, some misunderstanding and words you, or they, didn’t mean to say.
All of that’s normal, and no fun.
Another ‘off day’ could be one in which you’re not really depressed (or seriously depressed, which is a whole other ballgame and something you might need a therapist or medical help with), but just a day when it’s hard to feel happy or enthused or involved. It can be due to the weather. I like the rain, but not for three days in a row. It can almost be like an internal rainstorm. Somehow you feel unmotivated, lethargic, and you can’t seem to get yourself into gear. (That could be called winter in Canada; however, I am talking about an internal ‘winter’.)
So if it’s not serious, but just a day or two of ‘blah’, here’s what to try:
- Just plain shift. Something, anything. You can shift some pillows around, shift furniture or pictures around, and shift your day. Eat dinner for breakfast and breakfast for dinner. Do something different.
- Be physical. Get yourself outside. Go for a walk, a run, a swim, a massage with your RMT, a haircut, or to visit a friend. Get out of normal or back to something you did enjoy doing.
- Treat yourself. This IS the time to buy something (ONE thing) new. Don’t think it has to be expensive; it can be a new magazine you wouldn’t normally indulge in, a new shirt, even just a biscotti to go with your latte.
- Go to the library or a bookstore. Even if you don’t tend to read much, you can get lost in a new mystery. Lose yourself in someone else’s life for a change.
- Visit a person who is less fortunate than you are. When I’m feeling blah I go to see a 92-year-old friend who is housebound. I always enjoy her wit and viewpoints on life and it makes me feel good to do something for someone else. She appreciates the visit and knowing that someone cares enough to come by.
You can get yourself out of the ‘blah’s more easily than you think!
One of Reva Nelson’s books is about Resilience. Called ‘Bounce Back!’ it’s available by emailing email@example.com